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Friday, November 18, 2011
How to stop excessive and non-stop thinking totally
Are you aware that
your mind is always
occupied with
thoughts? Are you
aware that thoughts
constantly demand your
attention, dictate your
behavior and reactions?
Do you sometimes feel
that your mind is going
to explode from
nonstop thinking? Can
you focus your
attention on what you
are doing at any
moment, or are you
constantly distracted
by all kinds of thoughts,
negative thinking or
negative expectations?
You need to learn to
overcome your nonstop
thinking in order to gain
control over your
attention.
Do you sometimes wish
your mind could just
stop thinking for a little
while, and let you enjoy
some rest and peace?
Like an engine, it has to
rest to avoid wear and
tear. It needs some
rest from time to time,
in order to recharge
itself and your body.
The mind often looks
like a cluttered room,
with no free space and
no place to move. When
you empty your room it
will look bigger and
tidier, and it will be
more pleasant to be
there. So it is with your
mind. Remove the
clutter - the
unnecessary thoughts,
the worries and the
fears, and your life
would look happier and
brighter.
You are probably not
constantly aware of
the restlessness of
your mind, because this
became a habit and you
got accustomed to it,
yet, thoughts keep
coming and going,
occupying your mind
every moment of the
day, spending up mental
and emotional energy,
and sometimes making
your head ache.
Tension, strain and
pressure at work and
at home make the mind
even more restless, and
attract more thoughts
into it. Problems,
difficulties, fears,
worries and hurt
feelings increase even
more the mental
restlessness and lack
of inner peace, making
you more acutely aware
of the swarm of
thoughts coming into
your mind and making
you feel helpless. It is
during such times that
you desperately feel
the need for inner peace
and freedom endless
thinking.
When you need to focus
your attention, study or
meditate, you are again
confronted with
thoughts that swarm
into your mind,
disturbing and
distracting your
attention. This also
happens when you are
worried, angry or
emotionally excited. You
feel unable to stop the
flow of thoughts and
emotions that prevent
clear thinking, calmness
or self-control.
During such times you
just want to scream at
the mind to stop
thinking. You feel that
your mind has broken
any control and barriers,
and that it is working
on its own, sometimes
to your detriment. It is
like being helpless in a
rudderless boat in the
midst of the ocean, and
all you want is some
steady and safe land.
It is in times of worry,
stress, fear and strain
that inner peace of
mind is greatly desired
and appreciated.
Actually, inner peace
and freedom from
restless and incessant
thinking is a great boon
anytime and
everywhere. It makes
you happier, stronger,
more confident and
happy.
Imagine how it would
be to live your life,
work, interact with
people, read, watch TV,
travel or do anything
else, without thoughts
and worries claiming
your attention. Just
think how your
concentration would
become stronger and
your five senses
sharper! Just imagine
how your
understanding,
comprehension,
awareness and intuition
will increase!
You need mental and
emotional training, in
order to overcome
nonstop thinking and
free yourself the
compulsion, and it is a
compulsion, to think
incessantly and
involuntary, and fill your
mind with thoughts
that weaken you and
distract your attention.
You also need to
develop some degree of
inner detachment and
mastery over your
mind.
There are no short cuts
to overcoming nonstop
thinking and lack of
inner peace. The aim is
not to stunt your mind
through hypnosis or
subliminal programming,
but to gain real inner
peace, which you can
enjoy while staying
active, pursuing your
goals, and while
handling more
efficiently and
peacefully your daily
affairs of life.
Everything worth having
requires work and
effort. You cannot
become a pilot, an
Olympic champion or an
engineer by listening to
a CD, hypnotizing
yourself or saying some
magic words.
Developing inner
abilities, such as calming
down your mind, is no
different.
your mind is always
occupied with
thoughts? Are you
aware that thoughts
constantly demand your
attention, dictate your
behavior and reactions?
Do you sometimes feel
that your mind is going
to explode from
nonstop thinking? Can
you focus your
attention on what you
are doing at any
moment, or are you
constantly distracted
by all kinds of thoughts,
negative thinking or
negative expectations?
You need to learn to
overcome your nonstop
thinking in order to gain
control over your
attention.
Do you sometimes wish
your mind could just
stop thinking for a little
while, and let you enjoy
some rest and peace?
Like an engine, it has to
rest to avoid wear and
tear. It needs some
rest from time to time,
in order to recharge
itself and your body.
The mind often looks
like a cluttered room,
with no free space and
no place to move. When
you empty your room it
will look bigger and
tidier, and it will be
more pleasant to be
there. So it is with your
mind. Remove the
clutter - the
unnecessary thoughts,
the worries and the
fears, and your life
would look happier and
brighter.
You are probably not
constantly aware of
the restlessness of
your mind, because this
became a habit and you
got accustomed to it,
yet, thoughts keep
coming and going,
occupying your mind
every moment of the
day, spending up mental
and emotional energy,
and sometimes making
your head ache.
Tension, strain and
pressure at work and
at home make the mind
even more restless, and
attract more thoughts
into it. Problems,
difficulties, fears,
worries and hurt
feelings increase even
more the mental
restlessness and lack
of inner peace, making
you more acutely aware
of the swarm of
thoughts coming into
your mind and making
you feel helpless. It is
during such times that
you desperately feel
the need for inner peace
and freedom endless
thinking.
When you need to focus
your attention, study or
meditate, you are again
confronted with
thoughts that swarm
into your mind,
disturbing and
distracting your
attention. This also
happens when you are
worried, angry or
emotionally excited. You
feel unable to stop the
flow of thoughts and
emotions that prevent
clear thinking, calmness
or self-control.
During such times you
just want to scream at
the mind to stop
thinking. You feel that
your mind has broken
any control and barriers,
and that it is working
on its own, sometimes
to your detriment. It is
like being helpless in a
rudderless boat in the
midst of the ocean, and
all you want is some
steady and safe land.
It is in times of worry,
stress, fear and strain
that inner peace of
mind is greatly desired
and appreciated.
Actually, inner peace
and freedom from
restless and incessant
thinking is a great boon
anytime and
everywhere. It makes
you happier, stronger,
more confident and
happy.
Imagine how it would
be to live your life,
work, interact with
people, read, watch TV,
travel or do anything
else, without thoughts
and worries claiming
your attention. Just
think how your
concentration would
become stronger and
your five senses
sharper! Just imagine
how your
understanding,
comprehension,
awareness and intuition
will increase!
You need mental and
emotional training, in
order to overcome
nonstop thinking and
free yourself the
compulsion, and it is a
compulsion, to think
incessantly and
involuntary, and fill your
mind with thoughts
that weaken you and
distract your attention.
You also need to
develop some degree of
inner detachment and
mastery over your
mind.
There are no short cuts
to overcoming nonstop
thinking and lack of
inner peace. The aim is
not to stunt your mind
through hypnosis or
subliminal programming,
but to gain real inner
peace, which you can
enjoy while staying
active, pursuing your
goals, and while
handling more
efficiently and
peacefully your daily
affairs of life.
Everything worth having
requires work and
effort. You cannot
become a pilot, an
Olympic champion or an
engineer by listening to
a CD, hypnotizing
yourself or saying some
magic words.
Developing inner
abilities, such as calming
down your mind, is no
different.
Friday, September 9, 2011
How to know if you are aggressive on your relationship
Does your wife say you act "strange"? Does the term "passive aggressive" come up a lot when people talk about you? If so, you may be fighting with your family pretty often at this point. Obviously, being called "passive aggressive" and a person who "sabotages" others isn't a pretty compliment! You may feel they have no right to say that... and even if you suspect you do, you want to protect yourself from the hurt feelings it will cause to admit to such a thing. However, we want to sit down with you for a moment and point out some reasons why it might be a good idea to explore your family's/wife's opinion carefully. What can you gain from seeking out an answer to the question, "Am I passive aggressive?"
An obvious place to start is that you have no answer for your wife at this point. When she accuses you of being passive aggressive, you are sure to deny it, right? Isn't it true that she has no proof? But similarly, and you may have heard this from her before, you also don't have proof that you aren't passive aggressive.
In admitting that there is a problem within your relationship (even if the problem is just that your behavior is questionable to others) you can bring renewed focus into your relationship. You are showing that, regardless of your own opinion, you respect that your wife has a concern, and that you're willing to address it. This is called being open-minded and fair!
It is always important to find balance and understanding between you and your spouse. Relationship peace builds on a platform of mutual understanding and mutual perception about behaviors and interactions. However, there is another reason to listen to your family: you get to know yourself. Being self-aware is vital to being couple-aware; you have to know yourself and your needs very well in order to fulfill another's needs and/or ask for fulfillment yourself. In denying yourself this chance to get to know your own behaviors, your choices and what they mean, you are denying the relationship a chance to grow and mature. Marital peace is stunted when this grow is denied.
Your task at this moment is to accept the absolute need to understand and grow in your relationship. There is no such thing as "free lunch" in a marriage - you don't just get married, and then give up all responsibility now that you are "legit." If you are having marital problems and don't understand why your wife thinks "passive aggression" is the problem, perhaps it is time you began giving her a little credit. What if she's right?
An obvious place to start is that you have no answer for your wife at this point. When she accuses you of being passive aggressive, you are sure to deny it, right? Isn't it true that she has no proof? But similarly, and you may have heard this from her before, you also don't have proof that you aren't passive aggressive.
In admitting that there is a problem within your relationship (even if the problem is just that your behavior is questionable to others) you can bring renewed focus into your relationship. You are showing that, regardless of your own opinion, you respect that your wife has a concern, and that you're willing to address it. This is called being open-minded and fair!
It is always important to find balance and understanding between you and your spouse. Relationship peace builds on a platform of mutual understanding and mutual perception about behaviors and interactions. However, there is another reason to listen to your family: you get to know yourself. Being self-aware is vital to being couple-aware; you have to know yourself and your needs very well in order to fulfill another's needs and/or ask for fulfillment yourself. In denying yourself this chance to get to know your own behaviors, your choices and what they mean, you are denying the relationship a chance to grow and mature. Marital peace is stunted when this grow is denied.
Your task at this moment is to accept the absolute need to understand and grow in your relationship. There is no such thing as "free lunch" in a marriage - you don't just get married, and then give up all responsibility now that you are "legit." If you are having marital problems and don't understand why your wife thinks "passive aggression" is the problem, perhaps it is time you began giving her a little credit. What if she's right?
Neil Warner is the main "relationship guru," in his blog where the main focus is to increase the quality of love-based relationship experiences, focusing now on healing passive aggressive behaviors.
In a new, ground-breaking "Six-Step System," Neil offers a complete program to identify and change this impact of passive aggression in marriages with love and compassion. When there is emotional abuse, or anger issues or marriage conflict, Neil can provide good support and tools to change behaviors, so anybody can overcome childhood patterns that generate unhealthy relationships and be happier.
Men can also take the Passive Aggressive Test to determine their passive aggressive quotient, removing the current crisis in the home revolving around his question, "Am I passive aggressive?"
Creative Conflict Resolutions.
In a new, ground-breaking "Six-Step System," Neil offers a complete program to identify and change this impact of passive aggression in marriages with love and compassion. When there is emotional abuse, or anger issues or marriage conflict, Neil can provide good support and tools to change behaviors, so anybody can overcome childhood patterns that generate unhealthy relationships and be happier.
Men can also take the Passive Aggressive Test to determine their passive aggressive quotient, removing the current crisis in the home revolving around his question, "Am I passive aggressive?"
Creative Conflict Resolutions.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Proven techniques on how to last longer in Bed
Are you among the thousands of men out there looking for last longer in bed techniques? Are you afraid that you will never be able to totally please a woman and therefore you will end up single, without a sex partner? If you answered "Yes" to these two questions then this article will assist you. I am going to share with you two techniques to help you improve your sexual stamina.
But First You Must Understand The "Point Of No Return" Arousal Stage
There are four stages of arousal during sex but the stage you need to be concerned with for sake of the two techniques in this article is the "Point Of No Return" stage. This is the stage where you can no longer hold back. There is nothing you can do to stop the ejaculation. When you hit this stage it is game over. The secret to longer lasting sex is your ability to recognize when you are at the point "Just prior to" the "Point of no return" so you can stop and lower your level of arousal.
2 Techniques To Improve Sexual Stamina
Technique #1: The Stop And Squeeze
This is a masturbation exercise that will require some time and some privacy. You start out masturbating and when you get to the point just prior to the "Point of no return" then you stoke stroking and you squeeze the 'Rim' of the head of the penis extremely hard with your first two fingers on the underneath side and your thumb on the topside. The purpose is to lower your arousal level. I can tell you that it will lower it very quickly.
Once you have lowered your arousal level, continue stroking again and repeat the "Squeeze" technique when you get just prior to the "Point of no return" again. Squeeze until the arousal level is lowered and repeat again. You can do this process as many times as you like but it is recommended that you do at least 4 to 5 repetitions.
Let Her Help You
If you want to involve your partner you could let her stroke the penis for you or perform oral sex. You do not want to use intercourse as this will make it too hard to control the arousal. When you feel yourself getting just prior to the "Point of no return" then stop her and let her be the one to "Squeeze" your penis rim. Make sure she squeezes firmly. The harder the squeeze the quicker the lowering of the arousal level. Again, repeat 4 to 5 repetitions before finally ejaculating.
Technique #2: The Shower Stop And Squeeze
The technique is the same. The only difference now is that we are going to simulate a vagina by using the hot water from the shower. Both the warmth and the moisture can be simulated here. This is one step above the regular "Stop and Squeeze" exercise because of the added moisture and warmth.
Make sure to complete 4 to 5 repetitions before ejaculating. Also try to focus on slow stroking and controlled breathing. By focusing on these two items it takes your mind off of the early ejaculation. However, pay close attention to your arousal level.
Like before, you can allow your partner to assist you. With this exercise it is okay to finish off by having intercourse in the shower. Just make sure your partner is aware that this is an exercise to help you last longer, not please her sexually. Also make sure you get sufficient repetitions in before the final ejaculation.
When it comes to last longer in bed techniques the above two are very worthwhile in assisting you to increase your lasting time. Invite your partner to help you but make sure she is aware that her involvement is to help you, not please her. Use these techniques often and in a short time you will see great results!
But First You Must Understand The "Point Of No Return" Arousal Stage
There are four stages of arousal during sex but the stage you need to be concerned with for sake of the two techniques in this article is the "Point Of No Return" stage. This is the stage where you can no longer hold back. There is nothing you can do to stop the ejaculation. When you hit this stage it is game over. The secret to longer lasting sex is your ability to recognize when you are at the point "Just prior to" the "Point of no return" so you can stop and lower your level of arousal.
2 Techniques To Improve Sexual Stamina
Technique #1: The Stop And Squeeze
This is a masturbation exercise that will require some time and some privacy. You start out masturbating and when you get to the point just prior to the "Point of no return" then you stoke stroking and you squeeze the 'Rim' of the head of the penis extremely hard with your first two fingers on the underneath side and your thumb on the topside. The purpose is to lower your arousal level. I can tell you that it will lower it very quickly.
Once you have lowered your arousal level, continue stroking again and repeat the "Squeeze" technique when you get just prior to the "Point of no return" again. Squeeze until the arousal level is lowered and repeat again. You can do this process as many times as you like but it is recommended that you do at least 4 to 5 repetitions.
Let Her Help You
If you want to involve your partner you could let her stroke the penis for you or perform oral sex. You do not want to use intercourse as this will make it too hard to control the arousal. When you feel yourself getting just prior to the "Point of no return" then stop her and let her be the one to "Squeeze" your penis rim. Make sure she squeezes firmly. The harder the squeeze the quicker the lowering of the arousal level. Again, repeat 4 to 5 repetitions before finally ejaculating.
Technique #2: The Shower Stop And Squeeze
The technique is the same. The only difference now is that we are going to simulate a vagina by using the hot water from the shower. Both the warmth and the moisture can be simulated here. This is one step above the regular "Stop and Squeeze" exercise because of the added moisture and warmth.
Make sure to complete 4 to 5 repetitions before ejaculating. Also try to focus on slow stroking and controlled breathing. By focusing on these two items it takes your mind off of the early ejaculation. However, pay close attention to your arousal level.
Like before, you can allow your partner to assist you. With this exercise it is okay to finish off by having intercourse in the shower. Just make sure your partner is aware that this is an exercise to help you last longer, not please her sexually. Also make sure you get sufficient repetitions in before the final ejaculation.
When it comes to last longer in bed techniques the above two are very worthwhile in assisting you to increase your lasting time. Invite your partner to help you but make sure she is aware that her involvement is to help you, not please her. Use these techniques often and in a short time you will see great results!
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Friday, August 5, 2011
How You can last long in bed with ur girl
Men Tips - How To Last Longer In Bed
Since the dawn of time, men have been searching for how to last longer in bed. You may think that the cures and advice on lasting longer that can be found these days that explains more on lasting longer and having more intense orgasms is recent, but this is not actually the case.
Exercises and health tips on lasting longer in bed are ancient techniques and have been around long before certain pills or supplements that are commercially available have been.
Steps To Lasting Longer In Bed For Men
There are several different techniques that you need to be able to master for lasting as long as you can in bed. Following these techniques and resources will help you to become a better lover, a more confident man and of course, you'll experience far more pleasure and more intense orgasms.
Step 1: Perform PC exercises
Performing PC exercises, also known as flexing the PC muscle, is an essential part of overcoming premature ejaculation. Good, strong PC muscles help you to resist ejaculation. They also help you to get harder erections. You are effectively killing two birds with one stone by flexing your PC muscle regularly.
This exercise can be performed by flexing the same muscles that you use to stop yourself from urinating (PC muscles) and by holding them for 5 seconds at a time. You can perform this exercise 10 times in a row and then stop. Perform this series of exercises 5 times a day if possible. You can do this anywhere you like: in the office, in the car, in meetings and so on.
Step 2: Deep breathing technique
The deep breathing technique is very important in controlling ejaculation. Men who know how to last longer in bed all use the breathing technique, whether they realise it or not. Short breaths, irregular breathing or forgetting to breathe properly all contribute to nervousness.
Instead of over-exciting yourself and forgetting how to breathe, concentrate on your breathing during intercourse instead. Feel your breath enter and leave your body and be conscious of it. Take deep breaths, raising your diaphragm and breathe out slowly.
After a while you will start to do this naturally. If you use the techniques as advised, you will be able to last as long as you like and with more pleasure for both of you.
Step 3: Visualizing and Improving Mental Confidence
Much of the nervousness that a man experiences when he does not know how to last longer is due to his mind not being calm. Many men, especially those who have historically had issues controlling and delaying ejaculation, will experience nervousness in their mind which causes their body to react accordingly.
If you are nervous on the inside, your body may well be nervous on the outside and you risk ejaculating too fast. There is a certain way to train your mind to be calm, positive and powerful when making love. You have to possess the knowledge and solid confidence in your mind that you'll be able to last for long.
Repeating to yourself that you will last for long and visualizing yourself lasting for longer while pleasuring your partner will help you to become a better lover. Knowing how to last longer is partly mental and partly physical. However, many experts conclude that it is more mental than physical.
Since the dawn of time, men have been searching for how to last longer in bed. You may think that the cures and advice on lasting longer that can be found these days that explains more on lasting longer and having more intense orgasms is recent, but this is not actually the case.
Exercises and health tips on lasting longer in bed are ancient techniques and have been around long before certain pills or supplements that are commercially available have been.
Steps To Lasting Longer In Bed For Men
There are several different techniques that you need to be able to master for lasting as long as you can in bed. Following these techniques and resources will help you to become a better lover, a more confident man and of course, you'll experience far more pleasure and more intense orgasms.
Step 1: Perform PC exercises
Performing PC exercises, also known as flexing the PC muscle, is an essential part of overcoming premature ejaculation. Good, strong PC muscles help you to resist ejaculation. They also help you to get harder erections. You are effectively killing two birds with one stone by flexing your PC muscle regularly.
This exercise can be performed by flexing the same muscles that you use to stop yourself from urinating (PC muscles) and by holding them for 5 seconds at a time. You can perform this exercise 10 times in a row and then stop. Perform this series of exercises 5 times a day if possible. You can do this anywhere you like: in the office, in the car, in meetings and so on.
Step 2: Deep breathing technique
The deep breathing technique is very important in controlling ejaculation. Men who know how to last longer in bed all use the breathing technique, whether they realise it or not. Short breaths, irregular breathing or forgetting to breathe properly all contribute to nervousness.
Instead of over-exciting yourself and forgetting how to breathe, concentrate on your breathing during intercourse instead. Feel your breath enter and leave your body and be conscious of it. Take deep breaths, raising your diaphragm and breathe out slowly.
After a while you will start to do this naturally. If you use the techniques as advised, you will be able to last as long as you like and with more pleasure for both of you.
Step 3: Visualizing and Improving Mental Confidence
Much of the nervousness that a man experiences when he does not know how to last longer is due to his mind not being calm. Many men, especially those who have historically had issues controlling and delaying ejaculation, will experience nervousness in their mind which causes their body to react accordingly.
If you are nervous on the inside, your body may well be nervous on the outside and you risk ejaculating too fast. There is a certain way to train your mind to be calm, positive and powerful when making love. You have to possess the knowledge and solid confidence in your mind that you'll be able to last for long.
Repeating to yourself that you will last for long and visualizing yourself lasting for longer while pleasuring your partner will help you to become a better lover. Knowing how to last longer is partly mental and partly physical. However, many experts conclude that it is more mental than physical.
How to recover your man from pornography addiction
The question comes up often-sadly, more often than the question, "How do I break my own porn addiction?" The simple fact is, it's a lot easier to help someone who wants to be helped. If your husband is addicted and unwilling to admit it, then your chances of helping him are pretty small. If he wants help, on the other hand, your chances (and the support you can give him) jump drastically. So let's go through a couple of different scenarios.
Scenario 1: In the first one, a man is hopelessly addicted but refuses to admit it or seek help. The wife, in this case, doesn't have a whole lot of recourse.
The first question to tackle is whether or not to separate. I know women who have done it, and I know women who have had this work. But it doesn't always work. In fact sometimes it makes the problem worse. It could literally tear the family in half without hope of ever mending it again. The whole question of separation because of a porn addiction is something that simply cannot be answered here. It will take a lot of prayer and openness to consider it properly.
As for staying together-you should set some strict rules regarding the media that enters your home. He might not be willing to admit that pornography is wrong, but that doesn't mean you have to enable him. Nothing should come into the house-not even R rated movies that contain nudity. You yourself should also refrain from watching shows that are going to tempt him more. Even something as innocent as figure skating. And any printed pornography should be trashed.
You also have a right to refuse intimacy if your husband looks at pornography. And even more so if he refuses to stop. You can't control his actions, but you can control your own body and demand respect in your marriage.
Scenario 2: If your husband acknowledges he has a problem, but can't seem to break from it, your approach will be a little different. In this case, he's not refusing to quit, he's just failing.
Support goes a long way with addiction... but so does accountability. I know one couple who agreed to a period of abstinence every time the husband fell. 30 days the first time, 60 days the next time, and so on. This might seem to contradict some common beliefs. Many men will claim that if their wives would only give more in the bedroom, then they'd be less tempted by pornography. Nothing is further from the truth. A man must learn to master his passions, and only then can he break from the chains of vice. Especially when it comes to lust.
At the same time, a man and a wife should come together on a fairly regular basis. It is part of marriage. And it does, to a degree, lessen a man's sex drive. Every 2-3 days, a man's body becomes full of certain hormones-thus giving him more drive. A release will come naturally during the night (wet dreams), so it's not like he physically needs sex. But having sex will stifle the natural drive more than a wet dream will.
You should also urge your husband to join a support group-one with other men. Yes, you can hold him accountable. Yes, you can be supportive. But you will never be able to give him the fellowship he needs. That's something that can only come from other men. And it needs to be there if he's going to succeed. Get him to the meetings, and don't ever give him an excuse to skip a night. Often, it will be easier if he doesn't go. He can help with the kids or finish a project. But skipping that one night is always a doorway to skip another night... and another and another. Pretty soon, he's back in his old habits again. Even if he seems to be better and hasn't had a relapse in a while, make sure he goes every week.
As with the first scenario, make sure you have a clean home. Throw away anything that might tempt him. Do not let any pornography come through your door. If there's a problem with the internet, make sure all of your computers are in a well-traveled area, where everyone can see what's on the monitor. If that doesn't help, it might be time to get rid of the internet.
Scenario 3: You think your husband is doing well, but you suspect he's fallen and not told you about it.
This is tough, because a man can only overcome such an addiction if he's honest about it. Dishonesty puts his behavior in darkness, and it worsens there-growing and escalating.
The best way to handle it is to be upfront and tell him exactly how you are feeling. Tell him what you are worried about and why it worries you. But give him an open door to walk through. Encourage openness and honesty. Give him the chance to confess to you without being afraid of your wrath.
All in all, there's no real way to end your husband's addiction to pornography. He must deal with the problem and end it himself. You can only be there for him and try to guide him throughout the process.
Scenario 1: In the first one, a man is hopelessly addicted but refuses to admit it or seek help. The wife, in this case, doesn't have a whole lot of recourse.
The first question to tackle is whether or not to separate. I know women who have done it, and I know women who have had this work. But it doesn't always work. In fact sometimes it makes the problem worse. It could literally tear the family in half without hope of ever mending it again. The whole question of separation because of a porn addiction is something that simply cannot be answered here. It will take a lot of prayer and openness to consider it properly.
As for staying together-you should set some strict rules regarding the media that enters your home. He might not be willing to admit that pornography is wrong, but that doesn't mean you have to enable him. Nothing should come into the house-not even R rated movies that contain nudity. You yourself should also refrain from watching shows that are going to tempt him more. Even something as innocent as figure skating. And any printed pornography should be trashed.
You also have a right to refuse intimacy if your husband looks at pornography. And even more so if he refuses to stop. You can't control his actions, but you can control your own body and demand respect in your marriage.
Scenario 2: If your husband acknowledges he has a problem, but can't seem to break from it, your approach will be a little different. In this case, he's not refusing to quit, he's just failing.
Support goes a long way with addiction... but so does accountability. I know one couple who agreed to a period of abstinence every time the husband fell. 30 days the first time, 60 days the next time, and so on. This might seem to contradict some common beliefs. Many men will claim that if their wives would only give more in the bedroom, then they'd be less tempted by pornography. Nothing is further from the truth. A man must learn to master his passions, and only then can he break from the chains of vice. Especially when it comes to lust.
At the same time, a man and a wife should come together on a fairly regular basis. It is part of marriage. And it does, to a degree, lessen a man's sex drive. Every 2-3 days, a man's body becomes full of certain hormones-thus giving him more drive. A release will come naturally during the night (wet dreams), so it's not like he physically needs sex. But having sex will stifle the natural drive more than a wet dream will.
You should also urge your husband to join a support group-one with other men. Yes, you can hold him accountable. Yes, you can be supportive. But you will never be able to give him the fellowship he needs. That's something that can only come from other men. And it needs to be there if he's going to succeed. Get him to the meetings, and don't ever give him an excuse to skip a night. Often, it will be easier if he doesn't go. He can help with the kids or finish a project. But skipping that one night is always a doorway to skip another night... and another and another. Pretty soon, he's back in his old habits again. Even if he seems to be better and hasn't had a relapse in a while, make sure he goes every week.
As with the first scenario, make sure you have a clean home. Throw away anything that might tempt him. Do not let any pornography come through your door. If there's a problem with the internet, make sure all of your computers are in a well-traveled area, where everyone can see what's on the monitor. If that doesn't help, it might be time to get rid of the internet.
Scenario 3: You think your husband is doing well, but you suspect he's fallen and not told you about it.
This is tough, because a man can only overcome such an addiction if he's honest about it. Dishonesty puts his behavior in darkness, and it worsens there-growing and escalating.
The best way to handle it is to be upfront and tell him exactly how you are feeling. Tell him what you are worried about and why it worries you. But give him an open door to walk through. Encourage openness and honesty. Give him the chance to confess to you without being afraid of your wrath.
All in all, there's no real way to end your husband's addiction to pornography. He must deal with the problem and end it himself. You can only be there for him and try to guide him throughout the process.
How to overcome stress during pregnancy period
Stress can be very harmful during pregnancy, though cannot be totally avoided in everyday life. As a pregnant woman high stress level can be major problem that affects every area of your life,which will in turn affect the growth anddevelopment of your unborn baby. You may be worrying what yourlabor would be like, how you will handle the pain, how your partner will cope and all the rest. Knowing the causes of your stressful feeling is powerful information, which means you can take action to make it less intense.
Negative Effects of Stress During Pregnancy
There are many negative side effects of stress during pregnancy. Studies show that high levels of stress can result tochronic anxiety, increase your heart rate, blood pressure, and also contribute to an increased risk of premature delivery or low birth weight babies. Remember that just as what you eat affects your unborn baby, so too does your high stress level and your emotional health. It is important that you minimize your stress and anxiety during pregnancy for the betterment of your baby's growth and development.
Here are 5 simple ways to get you started in managing stress during pregnancy. You can even adopt many of these ways after pregnancy to ensure your stress level remains manageable.
1. Share your feelings
The idea that ''no manis an Island'' is so true,if you talk less about your stressful situations the stress will build up and can cause devastating health problems duringyour pregnancy period. By sharing your own feeling with your partner, mother, sister, friend or your doctor to get the rightadvice and support is agreat way of dealing with stress. When youtalk about your fears and concern with the people who care much about you, it will help you get reassured andfeel more confident.
2. Eat well
A healthy diet which includes vitamins and minerals can help keepstress under control by suppressing stress hormones. You should eat food rich in vitaminB, whole grain bread, oats, wheat germ, lean meat, nuts, fruitsand vegetables etc. Having a well balanced diet during pregnancy is good for your healthand for the normal growth and development of your baby and also helps to store up energy and rule out stress.
3. Take proper rest
One of the most common reasons for stressful behaviors and feelings is as a result of lack of sleep. You should follow a definite sleeping pattern to get a proper amount of sleep, so that your body will have time to recover from the day activities and enable you to feel better. Don't wait until you get too much exhausted before you go to sleep.
4. Exercise regularly
Safe pregnancy exercise is a great way to release stressful feelings while making you look and feel better. If you don't have a special hobby that interests you find one. You will reduce stress when you take your minds off your everyday activities and responsibilities. A hobby could be writing journals, painting, reading funny stories etc or you can as well practice daily 10-15 minutes walk in the fresh air.
5. Relaxation
Staying fit during pregnancy is very important; relaxation is a natural stress reduction technique and should be a daily routine. You should notonly focus on your responsibilities, try to relax and think logicallyabout whatsoever situation you are facing. If something does happen to go wrong, look at it as a learning experience so it won't happen again.
Having fun and laughter is one of the body's best ways of relaxing, watch a funny movies with your partner or go to the cinema.
As you can see it's notimpossible to manage stress, all you should know is that stress is everyday issue and will not be away anytime soon, therefore knowing how to manage your stress will make greatchanges to your healthand lifestyle. By so doing, you will have a healthier pregnancy.
Negative Effects of Stress During Pregnancy
There are many negative side effects of stress during pregnancy. Studies show that high levels of stress can result tochronic anxiety, increase your heart rate, blood pressure, and also contribute to an increased risk of premature delivery or low birth weight babies. Remember that just as what you eat affects your unborn baby, so too does your high stress level and your emotional health. It is important that you minimize your stress and anxiety during pregnancy for the betterment of your baby's growth and development.
Here are 5 simple ways to get you started in managing stress during pregnancy. You can even adopt many of these ways after pregnancy to ensure your stress level remains manageable.
1. Share your feelings
The idea that ''no manis an Island'' is so true,if you talk less about your stressful situations the stress will build up and can cause devastating health problems duringyour pregnancy period. By sharing your own feeling with your partner, mother, sister, friend or your doctor to get the rightadvice and support is agreat way of dealing with stress. When youtalk about your fears and concern with the people who care much about you, it will help you get reassured andfeel more confident.
2. Eat well
A healthy diet which includes vitamins and minerals can help keepstress under control by suppressing stress hormones. You should eat food rich in vitaminB, whole grain bread, oats, wheat germ, lean meat, nuts, fruitsand vegetables etc. Having a well balanced diet during pregnancy is good for your healthand for the normal growth and development of your baby and also helps to store up energy and rule out stress.
3. Take proper rest
One of the most common reasons for stressful behaviors and feelings is as a result of lack of sleep. You should follow a definite sleeping pattern to get a proper amount of sleep, so that your body will have time to recover from the day activities and enable you to feel better. Don't wait until you get too much exhausted before you go to sleep.
4. Exercise regularly
Safe pregnancy exercise is a great way to release stressful feelings while making you look and feel better. If you don't have a special hobby that interests you find one. You will reduce stress when you take your minds off your everyday activities and responsibilities. A hobby could be writing journals, painting, reading funny stories etc or you can as well practice daily 10-15 minutes walk in the fresh air.
5. Relaxation
Staying fit during pregnancy is very important; relaxation is a natural stress reduction technique and should be a daily routine. You should notonly focus on your responsibilities, try to relax and think logicallyabout whatsoever situation you are facing. If something does happen to go wrong, look at it as a learning experience so it won't happen again.
Having fun and laughter is one of the body's best ways of relaxing, watch a funny movies with your partner or go to the cinema.
As you can see it's notimpossible to manage stress, all you should know is that stress is everyday issue and will not be away anytime soon, therefore knowing how to manage your stress will make greatchanges to your healthand lifestyle. By so doing, you will have a healthier pregnancy.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
How to seduce a woman into loving you
All men are born with a natural, in-built ability to seduce women. Yet, some men simply don't know how to use it to attract and have sex with the women they want. No matter how hopeless you may think you are at seducing women, I will show you quick and easy ways to start seducing women today.
You don't have to be experienced with women to use these techniques, but I will point out that understanding how to seduce a woman is one of the first steps in becoming a man. Without knowing how to seduce women, you may often be left to watch in frustration and despair as another guy comes along and seduces the woman you secretly wish you could have.
After experiencing a few bad rejections from women you really like, you may end up thinking that women just aren't that attracted and interested in you. Worse, you may even start thinking that there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you - you simply need to make a few changes to what you are saying and doing around women and they will immediately start showing more loving and sexual interest in you.
How to Seduce a Woman Into Loving You
To seduce a woman into loving you, you simply need to make her feel strong, desirable emotions when around you. There are many ways to do this, but let me give you one technique that you can use right away.
Imagine that you're talking to the woman you want to seduce right now. After a few minutes of conversation, she says:
Her: "Hey, you’re a really interesting guy...why aren't more men like you?! Other guys are so boring..."
At this point in the conversation, you could respond with a normal, polite and safe, "Thank you" and even go onto explain why you're different (I highly recommend you don't do that by the way). However, if you want to seduce a woman into loving you and having sex with you, then you need to respond in a more confident, playful way to make her feel the type of strong, desirable emotions she wants to feel around a man.
Instead of making polite, everyday conversation and making her feel nothing, if you want to seduce a woman, make sure you reply with something like:
You: "Thanks, but compliments like those won’t score you any easy points to get me into bed. I’m not that easy y'know!"
Her: "Ha ha!"
You: "I mean, I have feelings...I’m not just a piece of meat. Damn, why does every beautiful woman I meet just treat me like a sex toy?"
Note: I've included the word 'beautiful' because women see it is charming when it say it in that kind of funny way. While you are being challenging, funny and flirtatious, you are also being charming by talking in this way. This drives a woman wild.
Her: "Ha ha!"
Also by taking this approach to a conversation, you are switching the roles and making it feel like she is trying to seduce you and pick you up. The excitement, humor, confusion, nervousness, happiness and amazement she will be feeling in the moment will all add up to her feeling strong, desirable emotions around you.
So that is one great example of how to seduce a woman. Keep reading if you want to learn more!
How to Seduce a Woman Into Having Sex With You
To seduce a woman into having sex with you, you BOTH must be experiencing sexual desire around each other. If you want to have sex with her and she doesn't want to have it with you, then you'll be the only one feeling sexual desire.
The best way to make a woman feel sexual desire and want to release the tension by having sex with you, is to make her feel like she has to work at getting you interested in her. Most guys make the mistake of trying to get women interested in them, but the guys who are naturally good with women always do it the other way around.
This is why you see women chasing after normal, average-looking guys and wonder "How did he get her interested?" It's pretty simple, once you know how to do it...
You don't have to be experienced with women to use these techniques, but I will point out that understanding how to seduce a woman is one of the first steps in becoming a man. Without knowing how to seduce women, you may often be left to watch in frustration and despair as another guy comes along and seduces the woman you secretly wish you could have.
After experiencing a few bad rejections from women you really like, you may end up thinking that women just aren't that attracted and interested in you. Worse, you may even start thinking that there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you - you simply need to make a few changes to what you are saying and doing around women and they will immediately start showing more loving and sexual interest in you.
How to Seduce a Woman Into Loving You
To seduce a woman into loving you, you simply need to make her feel strong, desirable emotions when around you. There are many ways to do this, but let me give you one technique that you can use right away.
Imagine that you're talking to the woman you want to seduce right now. After a few minutes of conversation, she says:
Her: "Hey, you’re a really interesting guy...why aren't more men like you?! Other guys are so boring..."
At this point in the conversation, you could respond with a normal, polite and safe, "Thank you" and even go onto explain why you're different (I highly recommend you don't do that by the way). However, if you want to seduce a woman into loving you and having sex with you, then you need to respond in a more confident, playful way to make her feel the type of strong, desirable emotions she wants to feel around a man.
Instead of making polite, everyday conversation and making her feel nothing, if you want to seduce a woman, make sure you reply with something like:
You: "Thanks, but compliments like those won’t score you any easy points to get me into bed. I’m not that easy y'know!"
Her: "Ha ha!"
You: "I mean, I have feelings...I’m not just a piece of meat. Damn, why does every beautiful woman I meet just treat me like a sex toy?"
Note: I've included the word 'beautiful' because women see it is charming when it say it in that kind of funny way. While you are being challenging, funny and flirtatious, you are also being charming by talking in this way. This drives a woman wild.
Her: "Ha ha!"
Also by taking this approach to a conversation, you are switching the roles and making it feel like she is trying to seduce you and pick you up. The excitement, humor, confusion, nervousness, happiness and amazement she will be feeling in the moment will all add up to her feeling strong, desirable emotions around you.
So that is one great example of how to seduce a woman. Keep reading if you want to learn more!
How to Seduce a Woman Into Having Sex With You
To seduce a woman into having sex with you, you BOTH must be experiencing sexual desire around each other. If you want to have sex with her and she doesn't want to have it with you, then you'll be the only one feeling sexual desire.
The best way to make a woman feel sexual desire and want to release the tension by having sex with you, is to make her feel like she has to work at getting you interested in her. Most guys make the mistake of trying to get women interested in them, but the guys who are naturally good with women always do it the other way around.
This is why you see women chasing after normal, average-looking guys and wonder "How did he get her interested?" It's pretty simple, once you know how to do it...
7 steps on how to seduce a woman
1. Think like a woman: Just put yourself in the woman’s shoe and think. She wants thinks to go slowly. We are more sensitive than men. So don’t be dumb and ask her to sleep on the very first date. This is where most men ruin their chances. Hence be smart and slow down, this will increase your chances a lot. You only have to be patient.
2. Plan: Women love it when men know how to plan things. Plan the seduction game. Invite her to a dinner with a romantic email. Mind you, this has to be romantic and not lewd. Leave her with a mysterious puzzle to solve. She has to know how much efforts you have taken to seduce her. Women are greatly aroused by men who plan the seduction.
3. Confidence, charisma, "alpha male behaviour": As a woman I can say for sure: we love confident and charismatic men. Just be a charismatic "alpha male" and you will irresistable. You can easily develop these qualities with the help of sublimianl messages- I know a lot of people who have boosted their charisma with the help of subliminal messages.
Trust me: women will beg for your phone number after that.
4. Gifts: Gifts are a marvelous way to seduce her. They may not express it but they just love receiving gifts. A book, chocolate or anything she loves is a good idea. Buy her some books about love. Show her how much she means to you. This is the best way to seduce her.
5. Talk: Make her feel happy. When with you, let her forger all the pressure on her. Humor is one quality which impresses women a lot. But be in limits. Don’t be boastful and the talking should happen both sides. Open up. Accept others as they are. Focus on what she says and does. Also learn from her.
6. If she is comfortable with you touching her, don’t go for the pants directly. Be passionate. Most women like to get touched on neck, shoulders. Be slow. Be romantic. Show them that you are different from other males. You are not like those who take off her clothes. Play the game slow.
7. If you want to know how to seduce let her take the lead. If you don’t know, ask her what she likes. If you give her the utmost pleasure first, you will win her heart. She will crave for more from you. And then she will try to reciprocate. And I am sure you know what happens next.
2. Plan: Women love it when men know how to plan things. Plan the seduction game. Invite her to a dinner with a romantic email. Mind you, this has to be romantic and not lewd. Leave her with a mysterious puzzle to solve. She has to know how much efforts you have taken to seduce her. Women are greatly aroused by men who plan the seduction.
3. Confidence, charisma, "alpha male behaviour": As a woman I can say for sure: we love confident and charismatic men. Just be a charismatic "alpha male" and you will irresistable. You can easily develop these qualities with the help of sublimianl messages- I know a lot of people who have boosted their charisma with the help of subliminal messages.
Trust me: women will beg for your phone number after that.
4. Gifts: Gifts are a marvelous way to seduce her. They may not express it but they just love receiving gifts. A book, chocolate or anything she loves is a good idea. Buy her some books about love. Show her how much she means to you. This is the best way to seduce her.
5. Talk: Make her feel happy. When with you, let her forger all the pressure on her. Humor is one quality which impresses women a lot. But be in limits. Don’t be boastful and the talking should happen both sides. Open up. Accept others as they are. Focus on what she says and does. Also learn from her.
6. If she is comfortable with you touching her, don’t go for the pants directly. Be passionate. Most women like to get touched on neck, shoulders. Be slow. Be romantic. Show them that you are different from other males. You are not like those who take off her clothes. Play the game slow.
7. If you want to know how to seduce let her take the lead. If you don’t know, ask her what she likes. If you give her the utmost pleasure first, you will win her heart. She will crave for more from you. And then she will try to reciprocate. And I am sure you know what happens next.
Monday, June 13, 2011
How to tell your partner you are tired of sex!
There is no easy way to tell your partner that you are too tired to have sex. Your partner is doing nothing wrong by coming on to you. That is what your partner is supposed to be doing. The person coming on to you is your partner and all. Wouldn’t you rather your partner come on to you than come on to someone else? It is okay to tell your partner that you are too tired to have sex every once in a while but if you find yourself constantly doing it, you may have a little problem. Your partner may look else where to satisfy his needs.
Right now I am going to go over a polite way to tell your partner you are too tired for sex.
Explain Your Day:
When you are feeling as though you are too tired to have sex with your lover the best way to go about it is to start by explaining your day. Tell your partner what you did. Maybe you worked a really long day with no breaks, or maybe you just came home from a long car ride and all you want to do is go to sleep. No matter what the situation is you need to sell it to your partner. I say sell it because that is what you are doing. Think about it. What would you be thinking if you were turned down? I’m sure you would feel defended, shut down, and maybe a little uncomfortable. This is exactly what your partner is feeling, and this is why it is so important to try to make your partner not feel this way.
Reestablish Your Connection
Tell your partner how you feel about your relationship and how you still feel for your him/her. That not having sex at that particular moment has nothing to do with the fact that you still want your partner all of the time. It has nothing to do with the fact that you love each other. And it has nothing to do with the way your partner looks because obviously you are extremely attracted to one another because that is why you are together! I know you are thinking that you should not have to tell your partner this when you do not want to have sex. You probably think that your partner should just assume all of these things because of all the time you have spent with one another. But you really do. Here iswhy. Your partner needs this reassurance. The reason you are not having sex with your partner is simply because you are too tired and not for any other reason at all. Communicate this with your partner as much as you can before you go to sleep. I know you get tired, but your partner is worth this little conversation believe me.
Make It Positive
After you tell your partner you do not want to have sex because you are too tired, tell your partner that you really want him/her and that the first chance you get that you will. It is just that you are simply too tired to at that moment. Maybe you can say after work tomorrow we will. Then tell your partner that you will be looking forward to it all day. When you are at work call your partner and tell him/her that you are looking forward to when when you get off so you can have sex.
You can even just text message your partner this.
Remember that your partner is with you because he/she chooses to be. At any time your partner can decide that you are not the right person for him/her so if you really want to make your partner happy you need to go the extra mile by putting in this type of effort.
Declining your partner sex can really affect a relationship if you do not go about it the right.
Right now I am going to go over a polite way to tell your partner you are too tired for sex.
Explain Your Day:
When you are feeling as though you are too tired to have sex with your lover the best way to go about it is to start by explaining your day. Tell your partner what you did. Maybe you worked a really long day with no breaks, or maybe you just came home from a long car ride and all you want to do is go to sleep. No matter what the situation is you need to sell it to your partner. I say sell it because that is what you are doing. Think about it. What would you be thinking if you were turned down? I’m sure you would feel defended, shut down, and maybe a little uncomfortable. This is exactly what your partner is feeling, and this is why it is so important to try to make your partner not feel this way.
Reestablish Your Connection
Tell your partner how you feel about your relationship and how you still feel for your him/her. That not having sex at that particular moment has nothing to do with the fact that you still want your partner all of the time. It has nothing to do with the fact that you love each other. And it has nothing to do with the way your partner looks because obviously you are extremely attracted to one another because that is why you are together! I know you are thinking that you should not have to tell your partner this when you do not want to have sex. You probably think that your partner should just assume all of these things because of all the time you have spent with one another. But you really do. Here iswhy. Your partner needs this reassurance. The reason you are not having sex with your partner is simply because you are too tired and not for any other reason at all. Communicate this with your partner as much as you can before you go to sleep. I know you get tired, but your partner is worth this little conversation believe me.
Make It Positive
After you tell your partner you do not want to have sex because you are too tired, tell your partner that you really want him/her and that the first chance you get that you will. It is just that you are simply too tired to at that moment. Maybe you can say after work tomorrow we will. Then tell your partner that you will be looking forward to it all day. When you are at work call your partner and tell him/her that you are looking forward to when when you get off so you can have sex.
You can even just text message your partner this.
Remember that your partner is with you because he/she chooses to be. At any time your partner can decide that you are not the right person for him/her so if you really want to make your partner happy you need to go the extra mile by putting in this type of effort.
Declining your partner sex can really affect a relationship if you do not go about it the right.
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