The highly anticipated America tour by leading R&B act, Banky W has suffered a great setback. Two of the headlined acts, Wizkid, who recently released his debut album and Skales weredenied American visas at the United States Embassy in Nigeria. The consequent of such action has thrown confusions intothe camp of the organizers.
The tour is intended tokick off on June 24 in Lincoln Theatre at Washington DC and thefans and lovers of the leading showbiz acts we learnt has been purchasing tickets to be part of the concert. The organizers are yetto make any official statement on the visa denial as they are still working round the clock to salvage the situation. Other cities and their venues after Washington is the Variety Playhouse Theatre in Atlanta on July 2nd, IL Auditorium at Museum of Science& Industry in Chicago on July 9, TX AYVA Center in Houston on July 15, NY Grand Ballroom in New York on July 16 and CA California Theatre in California on July 23.
The tour will stop exclusively at premierevenues and each performance will be accompanied by a live band and dancers to provide an unrivalled show for fans. The tour will also showcase some of thetop upcoming artistes and honour notable individuals and organizations in the community with awards & scholarships.Each show will be followed by an after party presented by thepromoter(s) in each city and hosted by the EME’s artiste and invited guests.
In addition to the incredible stage performance, all attendees who purchase advance tickets to any of the Tours show dates is meant to receive a copy of Wizkid’s debut album, Superstar which was recently released. After dishing out popular hits like Holla At Your Boy, Don’t Dull and Tease Me, Wizkid has been building a loyal fan base which has so far transcends his age. He is now a darling of all music lovers.
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Sunday, June 26, 2011
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Best ways to make a woman reach orgasm
Most males will ejaculate quite quickly if they have their organ stimulated. This applies even if the circumstances aren't very romantic, or even if they don't particularly like the person who's doing the stimulating.
Women, on the other hand, are not like this. The female orgasm isn't a push-button response. The conditions have to be right. Although females vary, many women need the following if they are going to reach a climax: a romantic athmosphere; a pleasant comfortable surrounding; a partner who they really like; a feeling of being wanted and appreciated; a good flow of foreplay leading to adequate lubrication, so that the delicate female parts will not get sore; a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris without turning her off; a man who is not afraid to ask, explore and find out what gets her going; a man who does not shy away from performing oral sex, if thst's her thing; and most important, a man that is tender, patient and understanding of her needs.
Unless you can provide the above, you are not going to have great success in giving your partner an orgasm. Please bear in mind that contrary to what many men think, sexual intercourse through penetrative sex by itself is not likely to produce and orgasm. This is because th basic penetrative sex alone is not very good at stimulating the woman's clitoris with either the fingers, tongue or mouth.
What happens in a woma's body during a climax is very similar t what happens in the male body when the man ejaculates. In most cases, there is a feeling of increased excitement, building up to a point where everything "explodes" in a great blast of ectasy. This "orgasmic movement" is charaterised by surges of intense contractions she feels but at less frequent intervals.
Following the orgasm, a woman feels the tension sips out of her body; she feels completely relaxed and would most likely fall asleep.
It is this state of very deep, dreamless sleep that both men and women experience after an orgasm is termed as little death.
Women, on the other hand, are not like this. The female orgasm isn't a push-button response. The conditions have to be right. Although females vary, many women need the following if they are going to reach a climax: a romantic athmosphere; a pleasant comfortable surrounding; a partner who they really like; a feeling of being wanted and appreciated; a good flow of foreplay leading to adequate lubrication, so that the delicate female parts will not get sore; a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris without turning her off; a man who is not afraid to ask, explore and find out what gets her going; a man who does not shy away from performing oral sex, if thst's her thing; and most important, a man that is tender, patient and understanding of her needs.
Unless you can provide the above, you are not going to have great success in giving your partner an orgasm. Please bear in mind that contrary to what many men think, sexual intercourse through penetrative sex by itself is not likely to produce and orgasm. This is because th basic penetrative sex alone is not very good at stimulating the woman's clitoris with either the fingers, tongue or mouth.
What happens in a woma's body during a climax is very similar t what happens in the male body when the man ejaculates. In most cases, there is a feeling of increased excitement, building up to a point where everything "explodes" in a great blast of ectasy. This "orgasmic movement" is charaterised by surges of intense contractions she feels but at less frequent intervals.
Following the orgasm, a woman feels the tension sips out of her body; she feels completely relaxed and would most likely fall asleep.
It is this state of very deep, dreamless sleep that both men and women experience after an orgasm is termed as little death.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Foods to eat to increase your sexual libido
Raw Oysters
Oysters have a high Zinc content which raises the testosterone and sperm production, which are both considered important for enhancing libido.Scrub shells thoroughly to remove any dirt and bacteria, pry them open and place on a bed of ice!.
Asparagus
Asparagus is rich in vitamin E, which is considered to stimulate the production of sex hormones (testosterone) and may be important for a healthy sex life.Good for both female and male libido levels
Figs
Figs are high in amino acids, which researchers believe can increase libido. It has also been found that Figs can also increase your sexual stamina
Almonds and nuts in general
Almonds are a prime source of essential fatty acids. These are vital as they provide the raw material for a man's healthy production of hormones.
Eggs
These are another source of vitamins (B5 & B6) both of which help fight stress and balance hormone levels, both are crucial to a healthy libido. High levels of stress are a well know cause of low sex drive.
Basil (Sweet basil)
This is said to stimulate the sex drive and boost female fertility.Brown Rice, Cheese and Turkey
These foods are all good sources if zinc. Testosterone production is dependent on zinc, and testosterone levels control both male and female libido and sex drive.Liver
Not the sexiest of foods but may increase low or slowed libido. A good source of GLUTAMINE.
Avocado
Avocado contain high levels of folic acid, helping to metabolize proteins. They also contain vitamin B6, helpful in increasing male hormone production. In addition potassium is found in avocado which aids in regulating the female thyroid gland, this helps enhance female libido levels. 
Bananas
A great energy giving food source. Contains the bromelain enzyme, which is believed to improve male libido. The phallic shape is said to be partially responsible for the banana being popular as an aphrodisiac food. However, they are rich in potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin which are necessary for sex hormone - testosterone production.
Celery
Celery can be a fantastic source food for sexual stimulation because it contains androsterone. This is an odorless hormone released through male perspiration that can turn women on.
Pine Nuts (the edible seeds of pine trees)
Pine nuts being rich in zinc and zinc being necessary to maintain male potency, pine nuts have been used for many years to stimulate the libido.
Salmon & Other Fish
Another good source of essential B vitamins B5, B6, B12, all of which are important in keeping good reproductive health.Damiana can Spice up Libido
Damiana is a small shrub with smooth, pale green oval leaves and aromatic yellow flowers. It grows in Mexico and Central America. Damiana (or Turnera diffusa) is said to help with impotence, relieve anxiety, promote general well being and act as a sexual stimulant for male and females alike.Tips on How to woo a lady
It is an open secret that women like to be wooed and even if a woman may not show an interest in the man, using the right wooing strategy may just be able to melt her heart.
Here are a few tips on wooing a woman and some stories behind them:
Here are a few tips on wooing a woman and some stories behind them:
- Buy her a gift. Although buying the woman a gift is a common way of showing a man’s interest, ending up with wrong gift can also be disastrous. My husband’s mate is currently interested in his colleague and recently, he asked my husband to help in choosing a piece of jewellery for her. I told my husband if they are merely colleagues at the moment, I’m just not too sure if a Tiffany necklace is the right thing to buy. Personally, I would be reluctant to receive such an expensive item from someone who is still only a colleague. Most women would love a gift definitely but something simple and sweet would be sufficient as too expensive a gift may just put us off.
- Anticipate her needs. When my husband and I were still friends, he used to brave the cold weather and cycle out to the take away shop in the middle of the night to buy me those midnight snacks without me asking. This was during the exam periods back in university when we would all be up in our rooms burning the midnight oil. He knew I would be looking for food and he did his part to fulfill my hunger pangs. Suffice to say it works. I guess if a man pays enough attention on the woman’s needs and is able to meet those needs, half the battle is won.
- Do something special. I once had a colleague who was being wooed by a guy she was still considering. On her birthday, this man did not go out and buy her a cake but he actually baked her one. When she found out that he actually had to spend a few days learning how to bake the cake, she didn’t believe him. But when she went over to his place and saw all the baking equipment, her heart melted. I suppose if a man does something to make a woman feels special, she might just be his for the taking.
- Know when to back off. I know there are women out there who would cave in to a persistent man. But persistance is only good to a certain extent. I know of a friend who used to have this guy who was crazy over her. Every morning, he would call her office to check if she has arrived safely to work. Then, he would call her just after the lunch hour to see if she had eaten. Before the day is over, he would ring again to find out what time she will be leaving the office and to ask her to drive safely. I guess he was trying to show that he cared but he just overdid it. The lesson being a woman wants to be wooed but not suffocated!
How to seduce a woman into loving you
All men are born with a natural, in-built ability to seduce women. Yet, some men simply don't know how to use it to attract and have sex with the women they want. No matter how hopeless you may think you are at seducing women, I will show you quick and easy ways to start seducing women today.
You don't have to be experienced with women to use these techniques, but I will point out that understanding how to seduce a woman is one of the first steps in becoming a man. Without knowing how to seduce women, you may often be left to watch in frustration and despair as another guy comes along and seduces the woman you secretly wish you could have.
After experiencing a few bad rejections from women you really like, you may end up thinking that women just aren't that attracted and interested in you. Worse, you may even start thinking that there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you - you simply need to make a few changes to what you are saying and doing around women and they will immediately start showing more loving and sexual interest in you.
How to Seduce a Woman Into Loving You
To seduce a woman into loving you, you simply need to make her feel strong, desirable emotions when around you. There are many ways to do this, but let me give you one technique that you can use right away.
Imagine that you're talking to the woman you want to seduce right now. After a few minutes of conversation, she says:
Her: "Hey, you’re a really interesting guy...why aren't more men like you?! Other guys are so boring..."
At this point in the conversation, you could respond with a normal, polite and safe, "Thank you" and even go onto explain why you're different (I highly recommend you don't do that by the way). However, if you want to seduce a woman into loving you and having sex with you, then you need to respond in a more confident, playful way to make her feel the type of strong, desirable emotions she wants to feel around a man.
Instead of making polite, everyday conversation and making her feel nothing, if you want to seduce a woman, make sure you reply with something like:
You: "Thanks, but compliments like those won’t score you any easy points to get me into bed. I’m not that easy y'know!"
Her: "Ha ha!"
You: "I mean, I have feelings...I’m not just a piece of meat. Damn, why does every beautiful woman I meet just treat me like a sex toy?"
Note: I've included the word 'beautiful' because women see it is charming when it say it in that kind of funny way. While you are being challenging, funny and flirtatious, you are also being charming by talking in this way. This drives a woman wild.
Her: "Ha ha!"
Also by taking this approach to a conversation, you are switching the roles and making it feel like she is trying to seduce you and pick you up. The excitement, humor, confusion, nervousness, happiness and amazement she will be feeling in the moment will all add up to her feeling strong, desirable emotions around you.
So that is one great example of how to seduce a woman. Keep reading if you want to learn more!
How to Seduce a Woman Into Having Sex With You
To seduce a woman into having sex with you, you BOTH must be experiencing sexual desire around each other. If you want to have sex with her and she doesn't want to have it with you, then you'll be the only one feeling sexual desire.
The best way to make a woman feel sexual desire and want to release the tension by having sex with you, is to make her feel like she has to work at getting you interested in her. Most guys make the mistake of trying to get women interested in them, but the guys who are naturally good with women always do it the other way around.
This is why you see women chasing after normal, average-looking guys and wonder "How did he get her interested?" It's pretty simple, once you know how to do it...
You don't have to be experienced with women to use these techniques, but I will point out that understanding how to seduce a woman is one of the first steps in becoming a man. Without knowing how to seduce women, you may often be left to watch in frustration and despair as another guy comes along and seduces the woman you secretly wish you could have.
After experiencing a few bad rejections from women you really like, you may end up thinking that women just aren't that attracted and interested in you. Worse, you may even start thinking that there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you - you simply need to make a few changes to what you are saying and doing around women and they will immediately start showing more loving and sexual interest in you.
How to Seduce a Woman Into Loving You
To seduce a woman into loving you, you simply need to make her feel strong, desirable emotions when around you. There are many ways to do this, but let me give you one technique that you can use right away.
Imagine that you're talking to the woman you want to seduce right now. After a few minutes of conversation, she says:
Her: "Hey, you’re a really interesting guy...why aren't more men like you?! Other guys are so boring..."
At this point in the conversation, you could respond with a normal, polite and safe, "Thank you" and even go onto explain why you're different (I highly recommend you don't do that by the way). However, if you want to seduce a woman into loving you and having sex with you, then you need to respond in a more confident, playful way to make her feel the type of strong, desirable emotions she wants to feel around a man.
Instead of making polite, everyday conversation and making her feel nothing, if you want to seduce a woman, make sure you reply with something like:
You: "Thanks, but compliments like those won’t score you any easy points to get me into bed. I’m not that easy y'know!"
Her: "Ha ha!"
You: "I mean, I have feelings...I’m not just a piece of meat. Damn, why does every beautiful woman I meet just treat me like a sex toy?"
Note: I've included the word 'beautiful' because women see it is charming when it say it in that kind of funny way. While you are being challenging, funny and flirtatious, you are also being charming by talking in this way. This drives a woman wild.
Her: "Ha ha!"
Also by taking this approach to a conversation, you are switching the roles and making it feel like she is trying to seduce you and pick you up. The excitement, humor, confusion, nervousness, happiness and amazement she will be feeling in the moment will all add up to her feeling strong, desirable emotions around you.
So that is one great example of how to seduce a woman. Keep reading if you want to learn more!
How to Seduce a Woman Into Having Sex With You
To seduce a woman into having sex with you, you BOTH must be experiencing sexual desire around each other. If you want to have sex with her and she doesn't want to have it with you, then you'll be the only one feeling sexual desire.
The best way to make a woman feel sexual desire and want to release the tension by having sex with you, is to make her feel like she has to work at getting you interested in her. Most guys make the mistake of trying to get women interested in them, but the guys who are naturally good with women always do it the other way around.
This is why you see women chasing after normal, average-looking guys and wonder "How did he get her interested?" It's pretty simple, once you know how to do it...
7 steps on how to seduce a woman
1. Think like a woman: Just put yourself in the woman’s shoe and think. She wants thinks to go slowly. We are more sensitive than men. So don’t be dumb and ask her to sleep on the very first date. This is where most men ruin their chances. Hence be smart and slow down, this will increase your chances a lot. You only have to be patient.
2. Plan: Women love it when men know how to plan things. Plan the seduction game. Invite her to a dinner with a romantic email. Mind you, this has to be romantic and not lewd. Leave her with a mysterious puzzle to solve. She has to know how much efforts you have taken to seduce her. Women are greatly aroused by men who plan the seduction.
3. Confidence, charisma, "alpha male behaviour": As a woman I can say for sure: we love confident and charismatic men. Just be a charismatic "alpha male" and you will irresistable. You can easily develop these qualities with the help of sublimianl messages- I know a lot of people who have boosted their charisma with the help of subliminal messages.
Trust me: women will beg for your phone number after that.
4. Gifts: Gifts are a marvelous way to seduce her. They may not express it but they just love receiving gifts. A book, chocolate or anything she loves is a good idea. Buy her some books about love. Show her how much she means to you. This is the best way to seduce her.
5. Talk: Make her feel happy. When with you, let her forger all the pressure on her. Humor is one quality which impresses women a lot. But be in limits. Don’t be boastful and the talking should happen both sides. Open up. Accept others as they are. Focus on what she says and does. Also learn from her.
6. If she is comfortable with you touching her, don’t go for the pants directly. Be passionate. Most women like to get touched on neck, shoulders. Be slow. Be romantic. Show them that you are different from other males. You are not like those who take off her clothes. Play the game slow.
7. If you want to know how to seduce let her take the lead. If you don’t know, ask her what she likes. If you give her the utmost pleasure first, you will win her heart. She will crave for more from you. And then she will try to reciprocate. And I am sure you know what happens next.
2. Plan: Women love it when men know how to plan things. Plan the seduction game. Invite her to a dinner with a romantic email. Mind you, this has to be romantic and not lewd. Leave her with a mysterious puzzle to solve. She has to know how much efforts you have taken to seduce her. Women are greatly aroused by men who plan the seduction.
3. Confidence, charisma, "alpha male behaviour": As a woman I can say for sure: we love confident and charismatic men. Just be a charismatic "alpha male" and you will irresistable. You can easily develop these qualities with the help of sublimianl messages- I know a lot of people who have boosted their charisma with the help of subliminal messages.
Trust me: women will beg for your phone number after that.
4. Gifts: Gifts are a marvelous way to seduce her. They may not express it but they just love receiving gifts. A book, chocolate or anything she loves is a good idea. Buy her some books about love. Show her how much she means to you. This is the best way to seduce her.
5. Talk: Make her feel happy. When with you, let her forger all the pressure on her. Humor is one quality which impresses women a lot. But be in limits. Don’t be boastful and the talking should happen both sides. Open up. Accept others as they are. Focus on what she says and does. Also learn from her.
6. If she is comfortable with you touching her, don’t go for the pants directly. Be passionate. Most women like to get touched on neck, shoulders. Be slow. Be romantic. Show them that you are different from other males. You are not like those who take off her clothes. Play the game slow.
7. If you want to know how to seduce let her take the lead. If you don’t know, ask her what she likes. If you give her the utmost pleasure first, you will win her heart. She will crave for more from you. And then she will try to reciprocate. And I am sure you know what happens next.
Best ways on How to woo a lady
Having a girl friend is, in a lot of ways, like bungee jumping. Everyone thinks its super cool, but when you are at it all you want is to get out alive. That said, it is rather highly unfortunate that as the cultural catalysts for over half a century now, Bollywood has given our masses a difficult benchmark to follow. Single, aggressive and angry Amithabs have silently been replaced with talkative, flirting and charming Shah Rukhs. And overnight the aloof silent singledom has become a symbol of pity.
But fear not readers, for in just a few lines that follow you will have the key to understanding a woman’s head, realize her wants and understand her thoughts. And that exact moment you would wish you never payed for this internet connection that has, with this post, pushed you into a lifelong contemplation bordering suicide, penance and lunacy.
But since you have come so far, let me give you a talisman on how relationships work. If you have ever wondered why the woman of your dreams looks instead at that rugged looking no-good rowdy down the street, you are already on the right track.
Women are pre-programmed with an intrinsic want to do good. Over that is an impregnable layer of an infallible ethical system. Crafted across this are the two most vital components of the woman’s brain- the screamer and the road-decomprehender. With so many interrelated components, each with its share of complexity, it is no wonder that the system as a whole comes up with just a couple of minor glitches. Therefore the woman ideally assumes it her divine task to turn the world around. She would complain about the use of plastics as she bites off that chocolate, use the more expensive and labor intensive recycled paper, scream at errant drivers on roads, set a model to prevent sunburn by dressing up Taliban style, and save all her used tissues and wrappers so as to help make a greener planet. Useless facts such as nuclear treaties, war, global warming or that recycled paper uses more in chemicals and raw materials than new paper hardly ever matter to her.
Now it is this inherent need to cleanse the society of evils that draws her to villains and axe murderers. A woman thinks it is her responsibility to purify her ‘victim’ by love. A delirious state governed by states of change and credit cards.
It is at this part of the relationship that the boyfriend quits smoking, drinking, flirting, eating, riding and breathing, while the girl on her part quits calling and going out with him. A woman needs a challenge. She needs something to change. Once the guy becomes perfect, her challenge is over. Some women may look for more things to change- the dressing styles or eating habits. And the ideal woman can constantly complain and feed her survival. The few that do not strictly fall into this median category move to greater villains to satiate their smarten attire. Of course, an intelligent woman may accept the lack of change as the greater truth in life and live with contentment, showering happiness across all she sees. But since every reader here knows that an intelligent woman is a biological anomaly.
5 things your boyfriend won't tell you!
1.We like being “the boyfriend.
”Girls often think that guys are players-at-heart who love the single life and only settle down because society tells them that they have to, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sure there are some guys who get a serious case every timethey make a commitment to a girl but these guys are the exception not the rule. We other guys have a word to describe our flakey won’t settle down counterparts – immature. For the most part guys love being in love just as much as girls do.
2.We don’t like when you pull away from us. Guys are competitive beasts so you’d think that the hard to get game would make us give chase, and in the beginning stages of a relationship it does, but once we’ve settled in and made a commitment to you we want the chase tostop. If you keep it up, if you keep pushing us away with your right hand while pulling us closer with your left, you’ll quickly find that we start pulling away altogether. Once we open our hearts the game totally changes for us. We don’t want to chase you forever so when you pull away from us, we pull away from you in what amounts to a psychological tug-of-war. The more you we respond in kind. Keep it up and everyone just gets tired and calls it quits. So once you’ve landed your guy don’t keep playing hard to get, instead let him know that you’re happy you were caught.
3. We want our friends to like you… but not love you. In guy world the approval of our friends is very important so it makes sense that we want our friends to like you. But what we don’t want is for them to covet you. When we hook up with a very hot girl and our buddies ogle her it is a real turn off. This is why so many really pretty girls find themselves single. We just can’t handle the thought of losing you to one of our friends because if that happens we lose our girl, one of our boys and a big chunk of our egos. So if our friends like you and think you're cool that’s great but if they wish they could have you that’s bad. Unfortunately this is totally out of your control. Rest assured that as guys get olderwe get more secure and this one matters less but in the meantime know this -if you’ve ever been dumped by a guy who you thought really liked you shortly after meeting his friends take comfort in the fact that you were probably just too hot for him to handle.
4.We want you to like, but not love, our friends.This one goes along with the other one for obvious reasons but there is a little more to it. Obviously we don’t want you ditching us to be with one of our buddies butwe also don’t want you to work overtime trying to win our friends over. Sometimes no matter how great you are, our friends will only act luke-warm toward you. This is most likely not your fault and usually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them but as long as our friends and you can hang out without incident the boyfriend in us is happy. We don’t want you to go out of your way to get our friends to like you because we wantyour energy focused on us and only us. We don’t want you to care what other guys think about you. We want your efforts andattentions to rest firmly on us. Is that immature? Probably. But hey, we’re guys!
5.We worry that YOU will dump US.When we like you, we like you and that’s all there is to it. In reality we probably spend more time worrying that you’ll dump us than we would ever spend thinking about dumping you. So relax and stop fixating on how or when our relationship will end and just be our girlfriend. That’s all it really takes to keep a guy happy.
”Girls often think that guys are players-at-heart who love the single life and only settle down because society tells them that they have to, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sure there are some guys who get a serious case every timethey make a commitment to a girl but these guys are the exception not the rule. We other guys have a word to describe our flakey won’t settle down counterparts – immature. For the most part guys love being in love just as much as girls do.
2.We don’t like when you pull away from us. Guys are competitive beasts so you’d think that the hard to get game would make us give chase, and in the beginning stages of a relationship it does, but once we’ve settled in and made a commitment to you we want the chase tostop. If you keep it up, if you keep pushing us away with your right hand while pulling us closer with your left, you’ll quickly find that we start pulling away altogether. Once we open our hearts the game totally changes for us. We don’t want to chase you forever so when you pull away from us, we pull away from you in what amounts to a psychological tug-of-war. The more you we respond in kind. Keep it up and everyone just gets tired and calls it quits. So once you’ve landed your guy don’t keep playing hard to get, instead let him know that you’re happy you were caught.
3. We want our friends to like you… but not love you. In guy world the approval of our friends is very important so it makes sense that we want our friends to like you. But what we don’t want is for them to covet you. When we hook up with a very hot girl and our buddies ogle her it is a real turn off. This is why so many really pretty girls find themselves single. We just can’t handle the thought of losing you to one of our friends because if that happens we lose our girl, one of our boys and a big chunk of our egos. So if our friends like you and think you're cool that’s great but if they wish they could have you that’s bad. Unfortunately this is totally out of your control. Rest assured that as guys get olderwe get more secure and this one matters less but in the meantime know this -if you’ve ever been dumped by a guy who you thought really liked you shortly after meeting his friends take comfort in the fact that you were probably just too hot for him to handle.
4.We want you to like, but not love, our friends.This one goes along with the other one for obvious reasons but there is a little more to it. Obviously we don’t want you ditching us to be with one of our buddies butwe also don’t want you to work overtime trying to win our friends over. Sometimes no matter how great you are, our friends will only act luke-warm toward you. This is most likely not your fault and usually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them but as long as our friends and you can hang out without incident the boyfriend in us is happy. We don’t want you to go out of your way to get our friends to like you because we wantyour energy focused on us and only us. We don’t want you to care what other guys think about you. We want your efforts andattentions to rest firmly on us. Is that immature? Probably. But hey, we’re guys!
5.We worry that YOU will dump US.When we like you, we like you and that’s all there is to it. In reality we probably spend more time worrying that you’ll dump us than we would ever spend thinking about dumping you. So relax and stop fixating on how or when our relationship will end and just be our girlfriend. That’s all it really takes to keep a guy happy.
Monday, June 13, 2011
How to tell your partner you are tired of sex!
There is no easy way to tell your partner that you are too tired to have sex. Your partner is doing nothing wrong by coming on to you. That is what your partner is supposed to be doing. The person coming on to you is your partner and all. Wouldn’t you rather your partner come on to you than come on to someone else? It is okay to tell your partner that you are too tired to have sex every once in a while but if you find yourself constantly doing it, you may have a little problem. Your partner may look else where to satisfy his needs.
Right now I am going to go over a polite way to tell your partner you are too tired for sex.
Explain Your Day:
When you are feeling as though you are too tired to have sex with your lover the best way to go about it is to start by explaining your day. Tell your partner what you did. Maybe you worked a really long day with no breaks, or maybe you just came home from a long car ride and all you want to do is go to sleep. No matter what the situation is you need to sell it to your partner. I say sell it because that is what you are doing. Think about it. What would you be thinking if you were turned down? I’m sure you would feel defended, shut down, and maybe a little uncomfortable. This is exactly what your partner is feeling, and this is why it is so important to try to make your partner not feel this way.
Reestablish Your Connection
Tell your partner how you feel about your relationship and how you still feel for your him/her. That not having sex at that particular moment has nothing to do with the fact that you still want your partner all of the time. It has nothing to do with the fact that you love each other. And it has nothing to do with the way your partner looks because obviously you are extremely attracted to one another because that is why you are together! I know you are thinking that you should not have to tell your partner this when you do not want to have sex. You probably think that your partner should just assume all of these things because of all the time you have spent with one another. But you really do. Here iswhy. Your partner needs this reassurance. The reason you are not having sex with your partner is simply because you are too tired and not for any other reason at all. Communicate this with your partner as much as you can before you go to sleep. I know you get tired, but your partner is worth this little conversation believe me.
Make It Positive
After you tell your partner you do not want to have sex because you are too tired, tell your partner that you really want him/her and that the first chance you get that you will. It is just that you are simply too tired to at that moment. Maybe you can say after work tomorrow we will. Then tell your partner that you will be looking forward to it all day. When you are at work call your partner and tell him/her that you are looking forward to when when you get off so you can have sex.
You can even just text message your partner this.
Remember that your partner is with you because he/she chooses to be. At any time your partner can decide that you are not the right person for him/her so if you really want to make your partner happy you need to go the extra mile by putting in this type of effort.
Declining your partner sex can really affect a relationship if you do not go about it the right.
Right now I am going to go over a polite way to tell your partner you are too tired for sex.
Explain Your Day:
When you are feeling as though you are too tired to have sex with your lover the best way to go about it is to start by explaining your day. Tell your partner what you did. Maybe you worked a really long day with no breaks, or maybe you just came home from a long car ride and all you want to do is go to sleep. No matter what the situation is you need to sell it to your partner. I say sell it because that is what you are doing. Think about it. What would you be thinking if you were turned down? I’m sure you would feel defended, shut down, and maybe a little uncomfortable. This is exactly what your partner is feeling, and this is why it is so important to try to make your partner not feel this way.
Reestablish Your Connection
Tell your partner how you feel about your relationship and how you still feel for your him/her. That not having sex at that particular moment has nothing to do with the fact that you still want your partner all of the time. It has nothing to do with the fact that you love each other. And it has nothing to do with the way your partner looks because obviously you are extremely attracted to one another because that is why you are together! I know you are thinking that you should not have to tell your partner this when you do not want to have sex. You probably think that your partner should just assume all of these things because of all the time you have spent with one another. But you really do. Here iswhy. Your partner needs this reassurance. The reason you are not having sex with your partner is simply because you are too tired and not for any other reason at all. Communicate this with your partner as much as you can before you go to sleep. I know you get tired, but your partner is worth this little conversation believe me.
Make It Positive
After you tell your partner you do not want to have sex because you are too tired, tell your partner that you really want him/her and that the first chance you get that you will. It is just that you are simply too tired to at that moment. Maybe you can say after work tomorrow we will. Then tell your partner that you will be looking forward to it all day. When you are at work call your partner and tell him/her that you are looking forward to when when you get off so you can have sex.
You can even just text message your partner this.
Remember that your partner is with you because he/she chooses to be. At any time your partner can decide that you are not the right person for him/her so if you really want to make your partner happy you need to go the extra mile by putting in this type of effort.
Declining your partner sex can really affect a relationship if you do not go about it the right.
My wife fornicates a lot - Hubby tells court
An Agege Grade ‘A’ Customary Court, Lagos witnessed a mild drama when a couple seeking dissolution of their marriage called themselves names.
While the husband, Mr. Friday Godspower referred to his wife as a fornicator, the wife, Mrs. Ekaette Godspower responded by describing her husband as a homosexual.
Mr. Godspower, 31 described his wife further as violent, destructive, uncaring, disrespectful and a flirt.
He urged the court to dissolve the three-year old union between him and the petitioner, adding that he was ready to take responsibility for the upkeep of his daughter, if granted custody..
The court clerk asked him how much he could afford for the monthly allowance of his daughter if custody was given to the mother. He answered that he could only afford N2,000 because he does not have a job at the moment.
The petitioner, Ekaette Godspower, had in her petition appealed to the court to dissolve the marriage because there was no more love between them, stressing that the respondent always beat her.
The court president, Mr. E.B. Shokunle asked if her husband was like that when they were courting. She answered in the affirmative, adding that he promised to change after they got married but the beating got worse and she had a permanent scar on her face to show for it.
She described her husband as a thief and a liar who was sacked from his office for stealing. ‘‘He is a homosexual and I was told when I go to work he brings young boys home to commit the act,” she said.
The court president asked if there was any evidence of this and she said she did not bring any.
She disclosed further that her husband borrowed money to gamble but had never won and she was always paying the money back. She added that she had been feeding him, giving him pocket money and paying their daughter’s school fees.
‘‘There have been a lot of family and church meetings on his behaviour but he did not change. When my father died following my matrimonial problems, he and members of his family did not attend the burial,’’ she revealed.
After listening to her, the president of the court asked her how much she would need if the custody of the child was given to her. She said N77,000 which includes monthly allowance, school fees and medical fees.
The court president wondered how a jobless man will be able to pay the money and adjourned the case till 21 July, 2011.
He warned them to maintain peace anywhere they meet.
While the husband, Mr. Friday Godspower referred to his wife as a fornicator, the wife, Mrs. Ekaette Godspower responded by describing her husband as a homosexual.
Mr. Godspower, 31 described his wife further as violent, destructive, uncaring, disrespectful and a flirt.
He urged the court to dissolve the three-year old union between him and the petitioner, adding that he was ready to take responsibility for the upkeep of his daughter, if granted custody..
The court clerk asked him how much he could afford for the monthly allowance of his daughter if custody was given to the mother. He answered that he could only afford N2,000 because he does not have a job at the moment.
The petitioner, Ekaette Godspower, had in her petition appealed to the court to dissolve the marriage because there was no more love between them, stressing that the respondent always beat her.
The court president, Mr. E.B. Shokunle asked if her husband was like that when they were courting. She answered in the affirmative, adding that he promised to change after they got married but the beating got worse and she had a permanent scar on her face to show for it.
She described her husband as a thief and a liar who was sacked from his office for stealing. ‘‘He is a homosexual and I was told when I go to work he brings young boys home to commit the act,” she said.
The court president asked if there was any evidence of this and she said she did not bring any.
She disclosed further that her husband borrowed money to gamble but had never won and she was always paying the money back. She added that she had been feeding him, giving him pocket money and paying their daughter’s school fees.
‘‘There have been a lot of family and church meetings on his behaviour but he did not change. When my father died following my matrimonial problems, he and members of his family did not attend the burial,’’ she revealed.
After listening to her, the president of the court asked her how much she would need if the custody of the child was given to her. She said N77,000 which includes monthly allowance, school fees and medical fees.
The court president wondered how a jobless man will be able to pay the money and adjourned the case till 21 July, 2011.
He warned them to maintain peace anywhere they meet.
6 more ways to win your man
1. Patience. You have to remember although even the greatest, most epic romances you've seen on television set takes place on your screen for an hour thirty minutes, the span in the movie often elapses over years. This is true for real life too. Although you've always known those perfect old couples to be that...old. Their love was the fruit of a seed sown 50 years ago. And sure, sometimes people authentically meet someone overnight and they fall madly in love with each other and live happily together for the rest of their life. But with the growing divorce rate (greater than half), the chances of this legendary loves story is just as it sounds...legendary.
The reason lotteries exist is because everyone believes that they are the lucky 0.001%. The belief it'll eventually happen is why people have huge gambling debts. To gamble your whole life away on a 0.001% luck of the draw seems hardly worth it - especially if love is that important to you. So stop wanting it. Stop looking around every corner to see if that guy's the one. If a guy likes you, let him take his time expressing it. Because, if you want to keep a guy, keep time on his watch, not yours.
2. Be exciting but not always available. We all know the saying that when you have too much honey, it'll make you sick, right? The same rule applies for love. You can be the most exciting, exhilarating, wittiest girl in the world, but if you're always there, after a while you'll seem...plain. Too much of you and you'll seem...too much. So if he asks you out and you already have plans; you already have plans. Don't blow your friends off and cancel your plans just for the guy. Trust me, he wouldn't. (Unless he's expecting action, of course). Blowing a guy off once in a while excites his primal lust for the hunt. No guy brags about the deer that just jumped right in front of him and he shot. But he will brag about going into the depths of the mountain and across oceans for that one mystical doe...
3. Think about what he wants, not just what you think he wants. Think about it, if a guy gave you flowers when you've been dropping hints for months that you want jewelry, would the flowers not disappoint you...if even a little? Make you wonder if he really understood you? That's the same thing for guys. If you invite him home for a massage because you think massages feel good, instead of paying attention to the fact that he just studied late with his friends and would rather have a pizza with the guys, he'll feel the same way too.
4. Be unconditional. This one is NOT to be confused with the earlier telling him "I'll always be there." That is still a guy turnoff. Being unconditional means that if he slips up, does the most wretched thing, you'll still take him back. If you really want him to open up, trust you, confide in you like you expressed earlier, then you'll forgive him when he makes those huge slip-ups. That's what builds true trust and durability. That doesn't mean if he tells you he cheats on you, you just jump out and go, "I don't care, I love you anyways!" By all means, let him know the severity of his act and let him reap the repercussions. But if he makes a pass at a girl that he doesn't go through with, and you caught him in the act...and you can tell that he is authentically, heart-felt fully sorry, then forgive him. Forgive him for his big mistakes now, and he'll forgive you when you're a little too clingy or act a little too jealous.
5. Be affectionate. Guys hate to admit it, but they like being special too. Although they might feel uncomfortable to see you drawing hearts around their names, when you buy them the watch that they've been drooling over for months, you just might win their hearts. For my anniversary with my current boyfriend, I got him a camera that was not within my budget (nearly $400) that was the exact one he wanted. Up until then I had been a near perfect girlfriend (with a few screw ups, obviously). At the end of the night, I told him that our relationship wasn't what I wanted, and probably would never be, so we had to break up. We held each other, and for the first time in years, he let himself cry. He later told me that was the night he authentically fell in love with me.
Although that seems the cliche puller, that really was the tipping point. With a year of built up affection, even the hardest rocks may crack (and trust me, he was a tough one!). Since then, I've often been the bad girlfriend while he often plays the part of the unconditional "always there" boyfriend. Because, once affection gets to him and he authentically lets you in, you're in for good. And you'll probably be one of the girls that he'll never forget (especially if you're one of the only people to see him cry.)
6. In short, be attentive to him, and not who your ideal guy should be. If you want to keep the guy, and not the idea of having a guy...If you don't try to force the puzzle pieces to make the guy who you want him to be...If you really want him, for him, then you will follow this: Find out who he really is. Find out what makes him tick. Pay close attention as he slowly unravels and don't push his speed. When you pay close attention to what he wants, you'll finally get what you want. He might even change for you. But trust me, humans innately aren't programmed to go and become another person's ideal partner. Thus if you're attentive to him, he'll eventually grow attentive to you. When I asked once what my boyfriend like about me the most, he answered "how much you love me". As much as I hated the answer, I knew it was true. The fact that I was willing to pay so close attention to him and really care for him as an individual is the reason he grew to love me deeply. As a girl, you might often brag about your individuality and wanting a guy to be sensitive to your need. Well, that guy will come to you...if you're sensitive to his needs first.
One final afterthought, just remember that no prince charming will ride in on a brilliant stallion and save you. But if you're the farmer who plants the seed and sows it with care, you might find out that he really is a rogue prince run away from an evil situation. Your prince charming will never come to you, but if you play your cards right, you just might come to him. And there just might be a happy ending.
So wherever your love life may take you, keep these ideas in your thoughts, and good luck reeling in your perfect ten.
The reason lotteries exist is because everyone believes that they are the lucky 0.001%. The belief it'll eventually happen is why people have huge gambling debts. To gamble your whole life away on a 0.001% luck of the draw seems hardly worth it - especially if love is that important to you. So stop wanting it. Stop looking around every corner to see if that guy's the one. If a guy likes you, let him take his time expressing it. Because, if you want to keep a guy, keep time on his watch, not yours.
2. Be exciting but not always available. We all know the saying that when you have too much honey, it'll make you sick, right? The same rule applies for love. You can be the most exciting, exhilarating, wittiest girl in the world, but if you're always there, after a while you'll seem...plain. Too much of you and you'll seem...too much. So if he asks you out and you already have plans; you already have plans. Don't blow your friends off and cancel your plans just for the guy. Trust me, he wouldn't. (Unless he's expecting action, of course). Blowing a guy off once in a while excites his primal lust for the hunt. No guy brags about the deer that just jumped right in front of him and he shot. But he will brag about going into the depths of the mountain and across oceans for that one mystical doe...
3. Think about what he wants, not just what you think he wants. Think about it, if a guy gave you flowers when you've been dropping hints for months that you want jewelry, would the flowers not disappoint you...if even a little? Make you wonder if he really understood you? That's the same thing for guys. If you invite him home for a massage because you think massages feel good, instead of paying attention to the fact that he just studied late with his friends and would rather have a pizza with the guys, he'll feel the same way too.
4. Be unconditional. This one is NOT to be confused with the earlier telling him "I'll always be there." That is still a guy turnoff. Being unconditional means that if he slips up, does the most wretched thing, you'll still take him back. If you really want him to open up, trust you, confide in you like you expressed earlier, then you'll forgive him when he makes those huge slip-ups. That's what builds true trust and durability. That doesn't mean if he tells you he cheats on you, you just jump out and go, "I don't care, I love you anyways!" By all means, let him know the severity of his act and let him reap the repercussions. But if he makes a pass at a girl that he doesn't go through with, and you caught him in the act...and you can tell that he is authentically, heart-felt fully sorry, then forgive him. Forgive him for his big mistakes now, and he'll forgive you when you're a little too clingy or act a little too jealous.
5. Be affectionate. Guys hate to admit it, but they like being special too. Although they might feel uncomfortable to see you drawing hearts around their names, when you buy them the watch that they've been drooling over for months, you just might win their hearts. For my anniversary with my current boyfriend, I got him a camera that was not within my budget (nearly $400) that was the exact one he wanted. Up until then I had been a near perfect girlfriend (with a few screw ups, obviously). At the end of the night, I told him that our relationship wasn't what I wanted, and probably would never be, so we had to break up. We held each other, and for the first time in years, he let himself cry. He later told me that was the night he authentically fell in love with me.
Although that seems the cliche puller, that really was the tipping point. With a year of built up affection, even the hardest rocks may crack (and trust me, he was a tough one!). Since then, I've often been the bad girlfriend while he often plays the part of the unconditional "always there" boyfriend. Because, once affection gets to him and he authentically lets you in, you're in for good. And you'll probably be one of the girls that he'll never forget (especially if you're one of the only people to see him cry.)
6. In short, be attentive to him, and not who your ideal guy should be. If you want to keep the guy, and not the idea of having a guy...If you don't try to force the puzzle pieces to make the guy who you want him to be...If you really want him, for him, then you will follow this: Find out who he really is. Find out what makes him tick. Pay close attention as he slowly unravels and don't push his speed. When you pay close attention to what he wants, you'll finally get what you want. He might even change for you. But trust me, humans innately aren't programmed to go and become another person's ideal partner. Thus if you're attentive to him, he'll eventually grow attentive to you. When I asked once what my boyfriend like about me the most, he answered "how much you love me". As much as I hated the answer, I knew it was true. The fact that I was willing to pay so close attention to him and really care for him as an individual is the reason he grew to love me deeply. As a girl, you might often brag about your individuality and wanting a guy to be sensitive to your need. Well, that guy will come to you...if you're sensitive to his needs first.
One final afterthought, just remember that no prince charming will ride in on a brilliant stallion and save you. But if you're the farmer who plants the seed and sows it with care, you might find out that he really is a rogue prince run away from an evil situation. Your prince charming will never come to you, but if you play your cards right, you just might come to him. And there just might be a happy ending.
So wherever your love life may take you, keep these ideas in your thoughts, and good luck reeling in your perfect ten.
10 ways to win the heart of a man
HERE’S WHAT WE KNOW AND WHAT YOU SHOULD LEARN
(10 ways how to win his heart) :
(10 ways how to win his heart) :
1. BE ATTENTIVE
Men like women who are fully engaged. Listen to his dreams, his fears, his heart. And keep his confidences.
2. BE OF “GOOD CHEER”
Too many women lose at love because they carry excess emotional baggage, have hidden agendas, and hold grudges. Strive to be pleasing to the sight and soothing to the soul.
3. BE ABLE TO COOK (SOMETHING!)
It’s true that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Take a culinary class or 2, or ask mom for some of the family recipes. There are also great meal ideas available online. And even if you can only whip up a few dishes, it will make him feel comforted and cared for.
4. BE WELL ROUNDED
Are you one dimensional? Or do you have a myriad of interests, experiences, talents, and friends? Be interesting as well as interested.
5. BE A PARTNER
Not a doormat nor a damsel in distress.
6. BE SMART AND SAVVY
It’s a fallacy that men don’t like smart women. A secure man will appreciate your intellectual value and be impressed by it. Just don’t be condescending or boastful.
7. BE YOURSELF
Forget what all the so called “experts” say. Be the best you that you can be, without the games and manipulation. If he doesn’t accept it, then he’s simply not the guy for you!
8. BE SENSUOUS
There’s a time for being “a good girl” and a time for being a girl who’s good.
9. BE KIND TO THE PEOPLE THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO HIM
His mom, sister, friends, etc. (whenever possible).
10. BE SELECTIVE
Be selective about what you choose to share with him. Reveal yourself in layers, through the progression of time. Your personality and life details should unfold like an intriguing suspense novel, not like a quick tabloid.
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