Great Questions you need to ask your partner before Marriage

1. Will you have kids and, if so, how will you
raise them?
Assuming that you both want to be parents
someday, how many do you want to have and how
will you raise them as co-parents? Will they be raised
under one religion? How do you expect to discipline
them? What are your expectations about taking them
on vacations? What are the expectations about who
will be the primary caretaker? If one of you goes on
parental leave, will that person be expected to
eventually go back to work?
2. How will you manage your finances?
What individual assets and debts will you bring to
the marriage? Who will pay the bills? What will be
considered a "big ticket" item and how much money
can spend on a purchase before you should consult
your spouse? How will you save? What are your
financial goals and how will you reach them
together? Will there be joint bank account or
separate bank accounts? Will you each have an
allowance of spending money and how much?
3. How will you spend free time?
How do you expect to spend it -- together or
individually? Will you still have time with friends that
doesn't include each other? How often would you like
to vacation and what kind of destinations would you
like to visit? How will you let each other know if you
feel like you need space?
4. Do you have expectations about sex?
How often will you made love? When is a good time?
How will you keep your sex life from getting boring?
How will you share sexual fantasies and desires? Do
you have any boundaries when it comes to intimacy?
5. How will you divvy up chores?
Who will do what in the home? If your spouse cooks
dinner, are you expected to clean the dishes, pots
and pans? Who will keep up with the maintenance
around the house? Who will mow the lawn or take out
the trash? Will the children lend a hand in the chores
and will they be given an allowance? How will you
divvy up the everyday load?
6. What can you do to openly communicate?
How can you make sure that you keep your
communication as good as it is now? How will you
make sure to handle your conflicts appropriately?
Will you check in with each other at the end of the
day or once a week? What can you do as an
individual to make sure that you keep the health of
your marriage a priority?
7. Do you have any annoyances?
What annoys you? What annoys your spouse-to-be?
How will you let each other know when certain habits
or behaviors bother you? How is it best to tell the
other person about things regarding family that are
upsetting?
Paraphrasing a famous commercial from years ago:
the more educated you are, the better off you will be.
So, have yourselves an intelligent and informative
conversation so that when the big day arrives, you'll
have a ball!