Tips on how to become an independent woman

1. Identify your femaleness.
Find that part of you that makes you a special female
specifically. Do you have pretty eyes? A lyrical voice?
Flowing hair? Find something that you can look at
your feminine side and say now that is something
woman about me. It doesn't have to be an
appearance characteristic, but definitely something
men just can't pull off like you do.
2. Find a strong woman you believe in.
Emulate her. Look to Audrey Hepburn, Mother Teresa,
Hillary Clinton, your mother, your best friend's big
sister, anyone! Find a woman you appreciate. Next
time you need to be strong think to yourself, "What
would (insert name) do?"
3. Cut out all the drama.
It can be hard but confident strong women don't
appreciate gossip and over the top emotional
situations. You can be a tender, emotional, easily
moved woman. That does not mean you need to talk
about other people's business. When gossip comes
up in conversation think classy and don't contribute.
4. Start talking to people and be proud of what
you have to say.
Confidence is key. It can be very difficult when you
are a reserved woman, but speaking up changes
everything. Make conversation with strangers (in an
appropriate, non-threatening manner) and stay
involved in current events and newsworthy topics to
help make wise up-to-date chit chat. When speaking
to those you already know speak more than you
usually do, but give people a chance to speak about
themselves as well. (No one likes to do anything
more than talk about themselves and taking that
away is dangerous.) Remember to be proud, patient,
pensive when speaking. You don't want to come off
as cheeky or boastful so thoroughly thinking through
your statements can be helpful.
5. Kiss the past goodbye.
If you're doing an internal make over than wiping
your past clean can be a great mental break. Take a
step back and think to yourself, "I woke up this
morning a powerful female. I'm staying that way no
matter what comes my way, and anything I did
yesterday can just melt away. I'm not doing that
again." And if your past ever does come back to bite
you, supply an apology from a place of both humility
and strength. If you feel the need to let these people
know you're moving on tell them so. They may not
agree and the band-aid formed may not hold, but you
will be happier internally if you stay strong, don't
lash out, and keep your cool.
6. Keep your convictions.
Don't run from fights. Wanting to avoid conflict is a
natural reaction to any issue, but fleeing from it
doesn't always help. Speak what's on your mind in a
civil manner, even if you're opponent is not being as
lady-like. Tell them why you believe you are correct,
justify that statement, and give them an opportunity
to speak openly. If you discover you are correct and
they lay down walk away empowered, but be
gracious about your victory. If you discover you were
wrong in your beliefs politely explain what you were
wrong about, apologize if necessary, and walk away
guilt free. (Over apologizing can be painful, so be
calm and remain strong.) If you come to a dead tie
that remains unresolved: drop it. If it's brought back
up, handle it. But don't go searching for an issue.
7. Admit your flaws. Be open and content with
things you are not good at, laugh about photos of
yourself you find unflattering, and smile about
positions you did not achieve/ contests you did not
win etc. Be content not being perfect. Women who
try to be exempt from flaws crumble faster than
those with too many to count.
8. Be happy having enemies.
From a young age everyone must learn that some
people just won't like you. Once you know you are
disliked by someone (whether it was provoked or
not) understand that and know they aren't worth
your time. Don't force a friendship to happen, it will
do more harm than good.
9. Handle insults and compliments with grace.
Take every comment made about you as lightly as
possible. Appreciate flattering statements with a
simple un-exaggerated "thank you" and ignore not so
flattering comments.